Songs that get you by

Everyone has different coping skills… none are the same. Sometimes coping could involve music, as mine does. 

What songs do you relate to during episodes (of course, if you don’t find music in this way, I know you have coping skills of your own).  

I’ll be updating this post to share mine. I will give you one right now (and there are a lot). Bells for Her by Tori Amos. When someone listens to her songs, they either hate them or love them. I’m, of course in the later group. 

Bells reaches out to those who feel like they have two lives that are sewn together, like a blanket.  By the end, you hear a solitary voice again, ripping apart their blanket… and then wondering if that was a good thing to do. 

Regardless, your two lives melt into one, and you find yourself making blankets for those that are struggling.  

Share your story to those wondering what, if anything, can reconcile the thoughts in their brain. 

Share your story about molestation, and about your own abusive relationships. 

But sometimes people are shy, or they are terrified about talking about their past. At this point, just talk about whatever. They know who to trust, and even if you’re not one of them, still be proud of your friend (and let them know it) you don’t need to spout out suggestions to help bc all they need is someone to listen. 

Always tell them how important they are to you, and, even if they get mad at you trying to find psychiatrists close to where they are, there’s a very high chance that they will thank you for “meddling” bc you may have saved a life without them ever knowing.   

About I.V.

39 year old woman with Schizoaffective, Bipolar type. I'm also intelligent, mostly positive, fandom junkie. Oh, and I have two cats: Zim and Gir... they're 13. So... fandom junkie? Ah, yes. Supernatural, Merlin, Buffy tvs, Angel the series, LOTR, Harry Potter, old x-files. I also like anime and and Manga. farvorite anime? Vampire Knight... and it cannot be dubbed! I also like plenty of others, I think of Elfin Leid when I say that... oh, and Blood+. Favorite Manga? Junjou Romantica, Vampire Knight, Loveless, Gravitation. I like the anime for these as well if they have it. Books: Dune, Good Omens, HP, LOTR, The Hunger Games, Wicked, the Southern Vampire Series, Snow Crash, American Gods, Pride and Prejudice, comics. Movies: The Boondock Saints, LOTR, HP series, Girl Interupted, SLC Punk, Walk Hard: the Dewie Cox Story, House of 1000 Corpses, The Devil's Rejects, Foxfire, Empire Records, Star Wars (only episodes 4-6), Iron Man (both of them), Thor (1&2), The Avengers Video Games: Dragon Age 1,2 and Inquisition, Kingdoms of Amalur, Little Big Planet, Star Ocean. I also love watching other people play Mass Effect, Dead Space and all the above mentioned games Oh, and I love Sushi :)
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5 Responses to Songs that get you by

  1. Full of Grace by Sarah McLachlan. I’ve always loved that song, and it’s one of my favorites if not favorite. Lately, it’s become intricately tied to one of my fanfictions/OTP (to the point where I made a slideshow for it), but even before that it had the perfect metaphor for my depression in the beginning of the refrain.

    “Pulled down by the undertow,
    Never thought I could feel so low,
    And oh, darkness, I feel like letting go.”

    That’s exactly how I’d describe it.

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  2. Harley Quinn says:

    I adore that song! It’s one of my favorites too. I can see how it fits with people who are struggling with depression or other illnesses that have depression as a part of them. I agree 100% on what you said.

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  3. Heather says:

    Hi Harley, I’m with you – music is a fantastic salve to the soul! As our family was driving home from our team retreat, we each choose different music to listen to on the way back. We were 3 1/2 hours away from home. I chose the album “Redemption Songs” by Jars of Clay. I just wanted to listen to songs that offer hope, life, redemption, and something that points up and away after a great time at our retreat and then returning to ‘regular’ day to day stuff. On another front, I’ve read a bunch of your posts and I’ve appreciated your transparency about your life and how you’re working it all through – thanks for that! Take good care, heather


  4. Harley Quinn says:

    I haven’t listened to Jars of Clay in ages! I’m now going to check out their albums.

    I’m trying to not make all my suggestions be Christian music, even though I abandoned most secular music at this point in my life. And there have been songs in the past that I’ve found refuge in.

    Have you heard of “Casting Crowns?” Wonderful Christian music. I will probably put a few of their songs in the lineup though.


  5. Heather says:

    Hi Harley, yes, I have many Casting Crowns cds – and also have them downloaded on my phone. Our family listens to a lot of Jars of Clay – their old and their newer stuff. They haven’t released anything new in a while though. Blessings, heather


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