Everyone has different coping skills… none are the same. Sometimes coping could involve music, as mine does.
What songs do you relate to during episodes (of course, if you don’t find music in this way, I know you have coping skills of your own).
I’ll be updating this post to share mine. I will give you one right now (and there are a lot). Bells for Her by Tori Amos. When someone listens to her songs, they either hate them or love them. I’m, of course in the later group.
Bells reaches out to those who feel like they have two lives that are sewn together, like a blanket. By the end, you hear a solitary voice again, ripping apart their blanket… and then wondering if that was a good thing to do.
Regardless, your two lives melt into one, and you find yourself making blankets for those that are struggling.
Share your story to those wondering what, if anything, can reconcile the thoughts in their brain.
Share your story about molestation, and about your own abusive relationships.
But sometimes people are shy, or they are terrified about talking about their past. At this point, just talk about whatever. They know who to trust, and even if you’re not one of them, still be proud of your friend (and let them know it) you don’t need to spout out suggestions to help bc all they need is someone to listen.
Always tell them how important they are to you, and, even if they get mad at you trying to find psychiatrists close to where they are, there’s a very high chance that they will thank you for “meddling” bc you may have saved a life without them ever knowing.